Is it true that the people that we love are what makes us who we are? Are we defined by who and how we love? That seems like an oversimplification.
But a part of me is gone now. Or at least it is in the process of leaving. I was who I was because of that part of me that loved that man. So who am I now?
Aren't I better when I love? I seem like a better person when I am in love. Happier, kinder, warmer...just better. It's addictive to feel that good.
But it's so dangerous.
I loved. I am lost. What now?
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Those people we love and the experiences, both good AND bad, we have with them help to shape who we are. But those things that love brought us don't just leave because that love is gone. You can't go back and be who you were before the love because we are ever changing beings, molded by each experience, and those experiences include the loss of the love. There will be more loves who bring different things to your life and change you in new ways you didn't foresee.
Can I just say that I don't think that you are a better person when you're in love? And I don't mean that in a negative way at all. I think you are an extraordinary person. I think that what makes you FEEL like a better person is the fuzzy feeling that love gives us, that makes everything look rosier and softer and smell like cookies. It also hides, temporarily, the harsher and sharper things about life. They are still there, and it's ok that they're there because they're necessary too.
The you that is you isn't going to be lost, even though it feels that way now. And you are still much loved. It's not the love you're talking about I know, but it is love nonetheless.
I am sorry you have this pain in your life, my friend. I would take it away for you if I could.
Muchas smooches
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